I’ve lost a lot of close family members, loved ones. My experience tells me the dead are better there, than us here in this world. They rested, they have no pain, and the most likely are in joy with God, Jesus and Mary. We who stay here cry and suffer, most likely for ourselves which where not ready for him or here to die, or because we are going to miss them a lot. A suggestion is that you enjoy life every second, of every day, give love the most you can. Dead can come any day, and it is certain that will come to everyone, so you be ready loving everybody around you, so they can die and you won’t suffer, and also you be prepared, yo don’t know when it’s your turn, so do what’s right every second of every day so God will be proud of you when you meet him.